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Asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you is a question that we tend to ask infrequently, it’s sort of understood in the social bond you have that yes, you want to go through life at each other’s side – and that’s wonderful.
Marriage, however, is slightly different. Sure, you may have started dating your other half and seen that relationship grow over time, never really verbalizing how close you were getting, just enjoying the ride. But still, if you want them to move in with you full-time, or share a bank account, or be put on the rental agreement of your next apartment, you have to make this explicit and discuss the parameters of such a decision.
Perhaps this is best shown when getting down on one knee and proposing to someone you love with all your heart. But the question remains – how are you supposed to ask someone to marry you in the first place? It’s very easy to overcomplicate this, and to worry about “saying the perfect thing” in your head.
In this post, we’ll discuss where to begin:
How Do You Ask Someone To Marry You, Anyway?
Be Patient
Waiting for the right time can help your question have more of an impact. You might wait until you head on vacation, or when you’ve sourced the finest engagement rings, and of course, when you absolutely know that having this person in your life is essential to you. Don’t ask out of a sense of obligation or because your partner has hinted this desire in no uncertain terms – as an honest, candid and loving request is always better late than never, and done for the right reasons.
Take your Time
There’s no race here. Sure, getting down on one knee isn’t the most comfortable of positions to be in, but it’s tolerable for the gesture. Take your time and think about what it is you really want to say. It’s okay if you’re not the most poetic person in the world, just be honest about how much this person means to you and why you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Even a goofy, stumbling, but entirely heartfelt speech can be a wonderful thing, and humanizes the entire affair.
Remain Vulnerable
Ultimately, this question puts you in a vulnerable position. After all, this is a request, not a confirmation. Your partner can easily say that now isn’t the right time, or they don’t think marriage is a good idea. We’re not trying to make you worry, it’s just the truth. However, remember that there’s no shame in being vulnerable in this way. It’s actually very loving and beautiful to show your cards, to be unafraid, to tell your partner that you love them and want them to stick around forever.
If you can be vulnerable instead of trying to emulate someone from a romantic novel or to do things “perfectly,” if you find a place that means something to both of you instead of making a huge scene, then you’ve shown your hand in the most authentic manner possible. This way, even if it doesn’t turn out perfectly, you can at least say you gave your entire honest effort. That in itself can feel inspiring. In the likely event your beloved accepts, you’ll enjoy the greatest feeling in the world.
In Conclusion
With this advice, we hope your proposal goes well and contributes to a long-lasting fond memory for both yourself and your partner.
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